Welcome to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy! 

We are an online education, support and connection community 

for growth-oriented lesbians and all women who love women. 

 

As a community and as individuals, we believe Black Lives Matter, we are actively anti-racist,

and we work to be conscious, compassionate and loving with ourselves and each other. 

Join our mailing list and get a free recorded class: 

Healing Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics​

  • Just coming out, a lifelong lesbian, or anything in between? Queer, bisexual, or don't like labels? We're here for you.

    Conscious Girlfriend welcomes, supports and celebrates all women who love women, or want to. Some members have been out for decades; others are just coming out.

  • Oriented toward personal growth and meaningful connection? So are we. 

    Conscious Girlfriend's work is intelligent, compassionate, and incorporates research from neuroscience, trauma healing, psychology and the study of successful relationships. 

  • We really are everywhere!

    If you value healthy, conscious dating, sexuality and relationships, you'll be right at home, wherever you are! We are based in the United States, but are honored to have members from all over the world.

  • The Academy offers 12 or more Zoom classes and groups monthly, so you have many opportunities to learn, connect and build community with like-minded women.

    Your membership lets you pick and choose from a rich array of topics! In addition, some of our wonderful community members volunteer to lead additional gatherings free of charge (their free community offerings are listed at the very bottom of the page, so make sure to check for them!) 

Welcome to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy

The Academy is an intelligent, compassionate online hub where all lesbians, queer women and other women-loving-women can meet, form friendships or more, and learn life-changing skills to create happy, healthy love.

  • We are a very special community. Most of our members say they've never found anything else like it: a place for all women who love women to share open-hearted conversation in a safe, compassionate atmosphere, while learning how to date and love skillfully. And yes, we've had members fall in love with each other, too :)

  • If you're on a personal growth or spiritual path, you'll feel right at home in the Academy! Our members tend to be smart, compassionate and growth-oriented women who value depth, and are willing to grow. Many are Buddhists, yogis, 12-steppers, and/or have done a lot of therapy or spiritual work. Some are newer on their growth path. All are welcome!  

  • Academy members come from all over. Geography is no barrier! We meet on Zoom, and use breakout rooms so you can meet and connect with other women 1:1 and in small groups. We have all kinds of classes and groups. Click the Calendar link, or scroll down to see our upcoming offerings! There are also free community offerings led by community members each month. Click the Free Community Offerings link, or scroll all the way down to the bottom of this long page.  

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Members Say...

I just wanted to thank you for putting together this wonderful Academy experience for us. It is definitely helping me feel more connected with other women, as a late-in-life, fairly recent discoverer of what I think of as my sexual fluidity.

— Carla, age 42

 

Thank you for creating such a powerful and loving community.  I'm very much enjoying the Academy offerings.  It’s so much more heart-opening and encouraging than the dating apps. I'll see you online again soon!

— Eliza, age 50

 

Wow! Today’s Academy group was wonderful! The visualizations we did today were very empowering for me. Also, a few nights ago I got triggered and then got to share about it with two other participants, and got supported with such love and kindness. It was quite healing. 

— Dena, age 66

 

I’m loving the Academy, having beautiful conversations and anticipating good friendships at the very least! It’s helping me feel a new spark and optimism at this point in my life. And I have gotten two women's phone numbers already!

— Ameli, age 64

 

The Academy is such a gift - a wonderful community of lesbians to talk to and interact with! It’s invaluable to me. I’m still working on being the right partner (as well as finding her) and I can see myself wanting to go through the course materials again and again.

— Teresa, age 36

 

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More About Conscious Girlfriend

Conscious Girlfriend is the #1 global resource providing education and support for women who love women. Since 2014, women from 18 countries have taken our classes!

 

Clearly, lesbians everywhere need and want resources for healthy love.

 

Whether you're just coming out, healing from a breakup,

ready to meet someone special, 

eager to learn more about healthy female-female sexuality,

excited about learning conscious communication skills,

or on a mission to make your love last, 

we are here for you. 

And we welcome all women who love women, 

whatever you call yourself.

 

By the way, becoming what we call a "conscious girlfriend" will benefit all your relationships, including that relationship you're in 24/7 --

yes, your relationship with yourself!

 

It's not just about dating and romantic partnership. And we welcome women who are happily single, single and looking, single and

getting over a breakup, dating, or in a committed relationship.

In other words, come as you are:) 

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Faculty

Most Academy classes are taught by Conscious Girlfriend's director, Ruth. But we have some amazing guest faculty who join us sometimes, too!

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. is the director of Conscious Girlfriend. Ruth has published eight books, including Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, and has taught at six universities. She is a certified Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality coach, and studied coaching with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and many other books. Ruth is also certified in hypnotherapy, core shamanism, and other transformational tools. She has been in private practice since 2003. 

Anna Benassi, MFT

Anna Benassi, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in grief, loss, couples work and Gestalt Therapy. She teaches at the California Institute of Integral Studies and has been a practicing Buddhist for over 20 years. Anna is much beloved by her clients for her ability to incorporate humor, play and quirkiness into the serious topics of love and relationships. Her website is www.annabenassi.com.

Kai Wu

Kai Wu is a love and sex coach with extensive training in Tantra and Ancestral Healing Lineage Repair, as well as all things sexual. She is of Chinese/Taiwanese ancestry, was born in Chile, and speaks Spanish, Mandarin and Cantonese. She has been immersed in her own ancestral healing and the reclamation of Chinese reverence practices for over 15 years. Her website is www.lovebodysoul.com

Megan Tennity

Megan Tennity of Relating With Grace (www.relatingwithgrace.com) is a  trauma-informed intimacy and relationship coach, certified in the Somatica Method, a certified Tantra Educator, and a current student of Somatic Experiencing trauma healing work. She is passionate about helping clients live their fullest embodied expression of sexuality and love, and integrating their spirituality and sexuality in authentic ways.

Maxwell Pearl, Ph.D.

Max Pearl (formerly Michelle Murrain) co-founded Conscious Girlfriend in 2013, and later transitioned gender. Max has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience and a Certificate of Theological Studies. He is a long-time practitioner of contemplative spirituality and has trained with Gay and Katie Hendricks, Body Trust and Authentic Movement. Max's new work is www.transresilience.com

 Although he no longer identifies as a woman, Max will co-lead workshops on gender identity, complexity and dysphoria.

Kat Kolegas

Kat Kolegas has an extensive background in sexuality work, including training in Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality Coaching, sexological bodywork, professional cuddling, and Orgasmic Meditation. Her passion is helping smart and successful women feel sexy and empowered in their bodies so they can attract the love of their life and have amazing, fulfilling, connected sex. Kat is also bilingual in Spanish. Her website is www.katkolegas.love

Frequently Asked Questions

How does the Academy work ?​

Who is welcome?

Can I participate in the Academy by phone?

What if the schedule doesn’t work for me?

What is the average age of Academy participants?

Is participation confidential?

All faculty and participants agree that all information shared in Academy settings will remain 100% confidential. 

More from Academy Members...

Yesterday's classes were incredible. I learned so much in the Boundaries class, definitely some life-changing knowledge in there! And the spiritual connection group was nothing short of delightful; the energy was so nurturing.

— Audrey, age 38

 

Thank you again for creating this Academy -- you have no idea of the amount of impact this has already made in my life! In the past I felt panicky when a match reached out to me on a dating site. Now I'm gaining so much confidence!

— Lauri, age 61

 

As a new Academy member, I wanted to share how much I enjoyed participating in the recent groups and classes! I can’t wait to watch the recording of the class because there was so much information in it. Thanks so much for making this available to our community. 

— Robbi, age 56

 

The Academy is helping me practice meeting women and sharing myself. I am excited and look forward more group meetings. Also, I have already contact info and have been talking with several women from the group. The “From Conflict to Connection” class was also excellent.

— Alexa S., age 60

 

 

Your class on Solo Sexual Enlivenment was very freeing, yes edgy, but you have a way of breaking the ice, and giving permission really resonates with me. I think that permission is really what I’ve needed for so long to let go (of unhealthy people and patterns), and to be my queer self. 

— Gereen, age 40

 

GREAT session yesterday! It addressed my problems (initiating, asking someone for her contact info, etc.) right to the core. I'm learning so much and it’s a great group of women.  I’m really glad to be part of the community!

— Terry, age 52

ALL TIMES LISTED IN PACIFIC TIME!! JUNE 2020

  • Tuesday, June 2, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Chemistry, Chemistry, Chemistry

    What causes that spark? What can you do if it’s not there with someone great – but overpowers you with someone who is clearly not right for you in other ways? Is physical attraction always visual? Does chemistry equal sexual compatibility? What is the relationship between physical, mental and emotional chemistry? What about “friend chemistry,” or good conversational flow and rapport? Learn more about how chemistry actually works for you and for other women, and how to keep it from leading you headlong into the wrong relationships. 

  • Saturday, June 6, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Frank Talk About Woman-to-Woman Sex

    What makes sex mind-blowing or mediocre? How does sex change after menopause? Can your sex drive actually be too high? Why isn’t there a female Viagra? Why do most women want less sex when they’re stressed, but a few of us actually want more? What really makes someone a great lover (or a lousy lover?) Which sexual theme is your favorite – passionate, romantic, dominant or spiritual? Is it okay not to like oral sex? Does orgasm really matter? What if your partner fantasizes about someone else while she’s with you? Join us for discussion of these and other burning topics. A no-holds-barred conversation!

  • Saturday, June 6, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Breakout Groups for Frank Talk About Woman-to-Woman Sex

    A follow-up to the class earlier today! You’ll have a chance to debrief with women in small groups, and explore more about how you tick, sexually, as well as hear other experiences. What constitutes sexual compatibility for you? Which sexual skills do you personally want to improve (hint: this could just mean knowing more about what you want and asking for it. It could also mean letting go of performance-driven sex…)

  • Tuesday, June 9, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Healing Sexual Shame & Internalized Homophobia

    None of us grew up in a culture that celebrated healthy female-female sexuality, or (most) female bodies. Today you’ll have a chance to talk about how cultural repression, abuse, racism, body-shaming, gender-normative stereotypes and other factors may have messed with your mind. Together we’ll co-create a compassionate, healing, open environment that helps you release shame and celebrate yourself and your sexuality. 

  • Saturday, June 13, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Healing Abandonment or Engulfment Fears

    Your “attachment style” is what often leads to repeated painful dynamics in relationships, whether you’re the person who wants more closeness, or needs more space. How does brain science explain why abandonment or engulfment (“being taken over”) fears affect us so deeply? Why does it sometimes seem as if “opposites attract” around this painful issue? And how can you create more harmony inside yourself and in your relationships?

  • Saturday, June 13, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Deepening Your Understanding of Abandonment and Engulfment Fears and Your Attachment Style

    Tonight’s breakout groups will give you a chance to further explore the questions brought up by the class earlier today. Gain more insight into how attachment style plays out inside of you and in your relationships, and learn from other womens’ experience, too.

  • Tuesday, June 16, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Women New(er) to Loving Women

    How do you adapt to a new sexual orientation, culture and identity? Where do you fit? How do you meet women? Is not having a “lesbian relationship pedigree” a problem? How do you come out to others in your life, and navigate their responses? Can you be a great lover even if you lack experience? (Btw, the answer is YES!) As a “newbie,” what are your burning questions and secret fears? Join us for mutual illumination and support. (And if you've been out for a long time and just want to support the newbies, you can attend, too.)  

  • Thursday, June 18, 5:00-6:30 pm PDT

     

    Special Gathering: Open-Hearted Conversations about Race

    https://zoom.us/j/99923536307

    Women of all races and cultures are invited to join together tonight for illuminating, honest, compassionate conversation. This event is open to all women who love women, including non-Academy members. Please invite your friends!

     

    Co-facilitated by Ruth Schwartz (who is white) and Toni Thomas (who is Black)

     

     

    Saturday, June 20, 12:00-1:30 pm PDT

    Class: Relationship Masters vs. Relationship Disasters: The Skills You Need

    In this class, we’ll dive deep into relationship researcher John Gottman’s findings about the “four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” – behaviors almost certain to lead to unhappiness and breakups – and their antidotes. You’ll gain more understanding of why good women often unintentionally create relationship disasters, and what to do instead to create more harmony, affection, intimacy, trust and ease.

  • Saturday, June 20, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection & Practice Groups: Gaining Relationship Mastery to Avoid Relationship Disaster(y)

    A chance for frank, compassionate breakout group conversation with other women, so you can identify your growth edges and practice new skills to avoid “the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” and cultivate more harmony, affection, trust, intimacy and ease.

  • Tuesday, June 23, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Discussion: Dating Over 50

    What’s different about dating and looking for love when you’re over 50? What do you need and want at this stage of your life, and how can you bring it into being? What blocks, fears and old beliefs do you need to release in order to be able to find healthy love – potentially for the rest of your life? Potential topics include: dealing with income disparities, health issues, adult children, and more. By the way, younger women are welcome to attend, too. 

  • Thursday, June 25, 2:00-4:00 pm

    Group Coaching Call for Advanced Academy Members only.

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

  • Saturday, June 27, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Red Flags, Green Flags, Fears & Compatibility: What to Look For (and Look Out For) While Dating

    What is a red flag while dating? What do you do if you notice someone else's red flags -- and/or if you are aware of your own? What can turn a red flag yellow, or even green? How do you know when you're actually compatible -- and what IS compatibility, really? We'll discuss these topics and others crucial to the dating process!

  • Saturday, June 27, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Connection & Conversation About Red Flags and Compatibility

    A chance to dive deeper in small-group conversations about all the issues brought up in today’s class. What red flags do you most need to watch for now, in yourself or others? What is truly a deal-breaker, and what isn't -- and why? 

  • Tuesday, June 30

    Tonight we will have two gatherings open to all women who love women (not just Academy members) for more heart-opening support around the painful issues of race and racism. Both will meet from 5:00-7:00 pm. Please to invite other women who might want to take part!

     

    Group #1 will be facilitated by Toni Thomas, a black Academy member, and is exclusively for mutual support between women of color. https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81266997834

     

    Group #2 will be led by Ruth Schwartz and Nichola Torbett, a white racial justice advocate and teaching of Unlearning Racism, and it is exclusively for white women who wish to learn how to dismantle unconscious racial bias and be more effective transformational agents in creating a more just world for all, most urgently for our sisters of color.  https://zoom.us/j/99923536307

JULY 2020

  • Saturday, July 4

    Take a day and night off!

  • Tuesday, July 7, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Connection Group for Spiritually-Oriented Women

    Buddhist, Christian, pagan, Jew, meditator, mystic, energy worker, Muslim, Sufi, “spiritual but not religious,” yogi or just person who feels spiritually connected to the natural world? Come meet like-minded women and share spiritual perspectives and practices in a heart-opening environment.

  • Saturday, July 11, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Connecting, Flirting, Inviting, Saying Yes, Saying No 

    How do you initiate getting to know someone better -- without feeling like you're putting your whole life on the line? How do you connect more authentically in the moment, whether or not you want to make or accept any invitations for connection in the future? How can you hear No without feeling rejected, or say No without making someone else feel rejected? How can you stay in your body while interacting with someone whom you find interesting or attractive? Special guest KAT KOLEGAS will be back for this session, which means it will be fun and experiential!

  • Saturday, July 11, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Small-Group Conversations About Connecting, Flirting, and Navigating Interest

    How can you know if someone is interested in you? How can you express interest in her, without feeling too vulnerable? How can you clarify whether you're on a "date date" or a "friend date?" What if you reach out to someone and she doesn't respond -- or, someone reaches out to you and you don't know what to do or say? What kinds of practice do you need to feel more confident, comfortable and free in these arenas? Share your questions, challenges and experiences with other women in compassionate, curious environment! 

  • Tuesday, July 14, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Conscious Connection for Friendship or More Group: Life and Love During Covid

    How is the Covid-19 pandemic affecting your life, and your desire for connection, romance and/or sex? What kinds of support do you need? How can you use the support of this community to help you live well, even with all the unpredictability and stressors we all face right now? Whether you're single, in a new relationship, or in an established relationship, what do these times require of you, and how can you cultivate those skills? This is a chance to share openly in a compassionate, loving environment. 

  • Saturday, July 18, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: The Art & Science of Boundaries and Requests

    Even a great relationship can get wrecked if one or both women don't know how to ask for what they want and need -- and/or don't know how to say No when they need to. And what's the difference between a want and need, anyway? What if you work really hard to state what you need, but the other person still can't or won't give it to you? What makes it so hard to ask for something -- and is there any way it can get easier? Learn the most effective ways to make an ask, and the most connection-building ways of saying No (as well as the body signals that tell you that you need to.) So many women keep themselves single because of not knowing how to work with boundaries and requests. So, come learn! 

  • Saturday, July 18, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Practice Session for the Art & Science of Boundaries And Requests

    There ARE effective, connection building ways to make requests, respond to requests, and set boundaries. But it takes plenty of practice -- so we'll do three breakout groups to give you a chance to to learn! PLEASE ATTEND THE EARLIER CLASS FOR BACKGROUND INFO BEFORE COMING TO THIS GROUP. 

  • Tuesday, July 21, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Class: Building Emotional Literacy and Empathy

    How can you actually know what you feel, want and need? How can you respond to someone else's feeling, want or need? Learn about how to build both your A from the CATCH Acronym -- in other words, how to be "Aware of what you feel, when you feel it" -- and also the T, or how to "Tolerate your emotions without blowing up, shutting down or self-medicating." We'll talk about various scenarios that make it hard to know what you feel, or hard to listen to what someone else feels, and practice ways to become more emotionally literate and empathetic. 

  • Saturday, July 25, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Conscious Uncoupling (Even by Yourself)

    Learn how to emotionally, mentally an energetically let go of past partner(s) and make peace with the past, even if her behavior is or was completely unreasonable. Letting go and moving on with clarity and compassion – especially for yourself – is an inside job. We’ll talk about how to get there.

  • Saturday, July 25, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Small-Group Connection around Relationship Loss

    Whether your partner died, left you, or you left her, it’s often hard to move on. This is a chance for compassionate sharing in breakout groups, learning from other womens’ experiences, and being witnessed in ways that help you make peace with the past and embrace the present.

  • Tuesday, July 28, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Class: Understanding & Healing Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics

    In so many relationships, one person feels abandoned or like she’s not getting enough connection, while the other person protests, “No matter what I do, it’s not enough.” What causes this difference, and what can you do to skillfully navigate the pain and confusion it causes? We’ll discuss how to co-create an autonomy-intimacy balance that works for both of you, and also how to understand and work with the painful triggers this issue brings up.

  • Thursday, July 30, 2:00-4:00 pm

    Group Coaching Call for Advanced Academy Members only.

    Come discuss the 12-Week Roadmap class lessons, role play about your specific challenges, and get coaching!

Want even more depth? Consider the Advanced Academy option. 

Before starting the Academy, Conscious Girlfriend was best-known for our life-changing class, The Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love.

 

In the past, this course was only available two or three times per year,

and took place over 12 weeks, with 7 group coaching calls.

Many women said that was just too fast. 

 

Now the Roadmap has a new, more accessible format!

 

If you choose the Advanced Academy option, you’ll get access to all 12 of the Roadmap modules, which include audios and written worksheets.

 

Plus, you'll be able to attend a 2-hour group coaching call every month for 12 months. During those calls, we'll do role-plays focused on your specific concerns, and you'll get personal coaching. 

 

Best of all, instead of having to rush through the Roadmap class

in just 12 weeks, you’ll be supported with the material for a whole year.

 

The Roadmap course is exactly what it sounds like:

an experiential and skills-based map to ready you for a relationship, 

guide you through conscious dating,

help you build clarity and confidence,

and support you in developing the skills for long-term partnership. 

 

Now, let me introduce you to a few women who took the Roadmap, 

and got life-changing results...

 

  • Lucy's Story

    Lucy was in her 40s and had come out after a long marriage to a man. She had only had one relationship with a woman, and it ended badly.  She knew some women would rule her out because she had two kids at home, and, especially because of her kids, she was really picky.

     

    So she doubted there was really someone out there for her, but she took the Roadmap anyway... and it gave her the clarity and confidence she needed.

     

    Within just a few months of finishing the Roadmap, Lucy met an amazing woman (on Tinder, of all places!) They have now been domestic partners for several years. Lucy's new partner adores her kids, and they post amazing pictures on Facebook of their family vacations. 

     

    This is how magic works: Lucy hates to cook, and among the many other qualities she wanted in a partner, she really hoped to find someone who would cook for her. Guess what? The woman she met is a chef!

     

    Lucy wrote to me:

     

    Taking the Roadmap really allowed me to focus on putting out into the universe what I wanted quite specifically. I put into my dating profile things I might not have before taking your course, and looked for specific traits I knew I needed, that I didn't know about before. I believe that was a big factor into why I even found her.  She really is what I have been looking for.   I was one of those women over 40 that wondered if finding the right partner was even possible at this age. Now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life.

  • Elizabeth's Story

    Elizabeth was in her 50s and gun-shy. She had a history of being attracted to partners who were not emotionally safe for her.

     

    She took the Roadmap class and also did 1:1 coaching with me, so we could rewire her attraction patterns.  (Yes, this is doable!)

     

    The Roadmap helped her realize that she actually got turned on by women who felt dangerous to her. This is not uncommon. But though danger felt sexy, it definitely didn't lead to happy relationships. 

     

    After we’d been coaching for a few months, and Elizabeth dated a few women who fit the old pattern, she met a woman at a party and noticed that something different was happening. There was chemistry and she could actually see that this woman was good for her, too. 

     

    Some bumps came up early on, and the Roadmap helped Elizabeth and her new girlfriend get through them and stay centered. Now they’re married and have been together for five years. They're local, so sometimes I run into them around town, and Elizabeth always introduces me as “the dating coach who made this possible for me.”

     

    Of course, the truth is that she made it possible for herself. But I'm really glad that the Roadmap helped her do that. 

  • Jeanette's Story

    Jeanette was in her 60s, and though she had been in a relationship with a woman for over 20 years, it wasn’t a happy or healthy bond. When that ended, she was easy prey for a woman who was toxic and destructive. When their passionate relationship went very, very bad, Jeanette knew she needed help.

     

    The Roadmap helped her realize that her relationship patterns dated back to her difficult childhood – and more importantly, helped her heal them. She spent months really getting ready to open her heart to someone healthy, even though she doubted she could find that person (especially since she lived in a remote area with few lesbians.)

     

    I kept telling Jeanette, “Magic can happen! It only takes one, if she’s the right one.”

     

    Jeanette did a little dating, but no one felt quite right. Still, she kept doing her internal work, and then magic did happen. A mutual acquaintance introduced Jeanette and Maureen because they had an unusual hobby in common. Then they spent months getting to know each other, building a friendship without anything more.

     

    It turned out that Maureen had previously thought of herself as straight, but the chemistry between her and Jeanette was undeniable – and eventually, they both ‘fessed up, and Maureen began coming out of the closet to her friends and family.

     

    Today, Jeanette and Maureen continue to build a deeper, more intimate, healthier relationship than either of them had ever thought was possible. 

  • Tiffany's Story

    Tiffany was in her 20s, and very shy. She had grown up in a religious family, and had a lot of trouble accepting herself as queer. She had come out to only one friend, who promptly rejected her.

     

    But the Roadmap class helped her build a community of loving, accepting lesbian and queer women friends (and big sisters, mothers, aunties and lesbian grandmothers!)

     

    Tiffany took the Roadmap class twice, and over time, she came out of her shell. She began attending the LGBTQ group at her college, then started using the lesbian dating apps. Soon she made some queer friends her own age. Then, after a few months, one of them suggested they become girlfriends.

     

    Tiffany wrote me, “When I started the class, I was so isolated and couldn’t imagine how I could ever live a real life as the person I am. It seemed impossible. Truthfully I just reached out from desperation. Now I have friends, a girlfriend, and so much more self-acceptance. I honestly think the Roadmap saved my life.” 

I could go on… and on… and on.

 

These four stories are just a handful of the amazing transformations I have been privileged to witness in women who took the Roadmap course -- women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and yes, 70s too.

 

There's no upper or lower age limit on healthy love. 

And the Roadmap will help you prepare for that love, and find it.

 

To get access to the 12-module Roadmap Class and monthly group coaching sessions, choose the Advanced Member option. 

Which Academy Option is Right For You?

Full Academy

$99/mo.

Or pay only $58/month when you sign up for a full year at $697! 

Come to any or all of our monthly offerings!

8 Connection Groups + 4 Skills Classes per month (Skills Class recordings available, too)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

 

Advanced

Member

$1297/yr.

Save $491 when you pay in full for the year! Or choose

12 pay - $149/mo.

All the Benefits of Full Academy Membership, PLUS... 

 

Access to our comprehensive 12-module course, the Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love, plus

 

A 2-hour group coaching call each month, exclusively for Advanced members (includes role-playing, laser coaching, and other opportunities to integrate the material more deeply) plus

 

A Private Facebook Group just for Roadmappers (along with the private Academy Facebook group)

Just the Skills 

$49/mo.

Or pay only $33/month when you sign up for a full year at $397! 

Come to any or all of our 4 Skills Classes per month (recordings available)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

Your Heart is Worth It. 

I hope reading this page has helped you develop more hope about your love life! 

Here's the thing: lesbians and queer women are courageous and powerful, and our relationships can be the very best relationships on the planet.

 

But because two women can bond so deeply and quickly, our relationships can also go bad fast -- if you don't choose a partner wisely, or don't have the skill, compassion and self-awareness to navigate conflicts when they arise. That's why the Academy helps you build those skills, and also connect with other women who share the commitment to conscious relationships.

 

Painful lesbian relationships are unfortunately common.

And over time, some women actually get scared of relationships because of bad experiences.

But it doesn't have to be that way!

 

You deserve happy, healthy love (and great sex, too!) And you can learn to choose the right partner, and also be the right partner.

 

There aren't many places where women who love women can learn, other than the "school of hard knocks." That's why the Academy was born.

We are here to support women who value growth. 

 

And meanwhile, you can have fun, make friends and maybe even find someone to date! A number of couples have formed already within our amazing community :)

 

Dip your toe in the water with a Skills-Only Membership, get 3X more learning and connection with a full membership, or fully commit yourself to change with an Advanced/Roadmap Membership.

The choice is yours.

Free, Non-Official Community Offerings 

 

Some wonderful Academy members have volunteered to lead the free groups and classes below. Although they are not official Conscious Girlfriend Academy offerings, they are additional chances to meet, learn, have fun, and connect! All aspiring Conscious Girlfriends are welcome (Academy membership is not required, but we do ask that you be committed to being conscious, compassionate, curious and honoring confidentiality, along with honoring other Conscious Girlfriend policies against hate speech, etc.)   

 

All Community Offerings will meet at this Zoom link:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83907388812 

 

Group Leader contact info is at the very bottom of this page.

JULY Free Community Offerings

All Community Offerings will meet at this Zoom link:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83907388812 

 

 

SUNDAY, JUNE 28 - 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

JULY Community Offerings

 

FRIDAY, JULY 3, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. 

 

SATURDAY,  JULY 4, 10:30am-11:30 am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 5, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

THURSDAY, JULY 9, 5:00-6:30 pm

Creativity in Solitude - with Julie Gieseke

Time alone, whether in a pandemic or as a solitary/single person in life is a unique opportunity to deepen your connection to your creative expression. Join in this experiential and fun gathering for some playful activities to build connection to your creative expression as well as to others.

 

FRIDAY, JULY 10, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. 

 

SATURDAY,  JULY 11, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 12, 11:00 a.m.-12:30 p.m.

Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy - with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 12, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

MONDAY, JULY 13, 4:00-5:30 pm 

Maneuvering Through Your Malicious Messaging: Part I - with Misha Safran

Are you your worst enemy at times? Often? Are you willing to change the record? Change your story? In this class we will discuss what has felt normal but may not be normal ways to treat yourself, only familiar. We will have breakout rooms and brainstorming to support creating new ways of talking to yourself.

 

FRIDAY, JULY 17, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. 

 

SATURDAY,  JULY 18, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 19, 11:00 a.m.-12:30 p.m.

Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy - with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 19, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

MONDAY, JULY 20, 4:00-5:30 pm 

Maneuvering Through Your Malicious Messaging: Part II - with Misha Safran

Are you your worst enemy at times? Often? Are you willing to change the record? Change your story? In this class we will discuss what has felt normal but may not be normal ways to treat yourself, only familiar. We will have breakout rooms and brainstorming to support creating new ways of talking to yourself.

 

THURSDAY, JULY 23, 5:00-6:30 pm

Creativity in Solitude - with Julie Gieseke

Time alone, whether in a pandemic or as a solitary/single person in life is a unique opportunity to deepen your connection to your creative expression. Join in this experiential and fun gathering for some playful activities to build connection to your creative expression as well as to others.

 

FRIDAY, JULY 24, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. 

 

SATURDAY,  JULY 25, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 26, 11:00 a.m.-12:30 p.m.

Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy - with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, JULY 26, 1:00-2:30 pm

Improv with Toni! 

Have you ever wanted to be able to talk to anyone and find common ground? From chatting up a famous dignitary,  to asking for a raise, to hanging with the cool kids at your local watering hole: Improv can help! We’ll talk about the history of improv, then dive right in with guidelines and games to get you so amped that you want to have a few choice words with 45, or better yet, welcome in 46!!! Yes, and -- let's play!!

 

SUNDAY, JULY 26, 5:30pm-7:00 pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

MONDAY, JULY 27, 4:00-5:30 pm 

Maneuvering Through Your Malicious Messaging: Part III - with Misha Safran

Are you your worst enemy at times? Often? Are you willing to change the record? Change your story? In this class we will discuss what has felt normal but may not be normal ways to treat yourself, only familiar. We will have breakout rooms and brainstorming to support creating new ways of talking to yourself.

 

WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 4:30-7:30 pm

CGA Open Mic! - with Misha Safran

Come take part or come witness the amazing musical, written and performing talents of our very talented community! These are amazing events. To sign up for a slot, please contact Misha at misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

FRIDAY, JULY 31, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. 

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COMMUNITY OFFERING GROUP LEADER CONTACT INFO:

Misha Safran is a Live, Laugh & Love Transformational Coach.   misha@safranconsulting.com

Adri Tucker can be reached at atucker2573@gmail.com

Jodi Mclaren can be reached at jodi@jodimclaren.com

Lori J. can be reached at (619)990-3099.  

Toni is at Tyvettethomas@hotmail.com

Julie Gieseke is at www.juliegieseke.com

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