Welcome to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy! 

We are an online education, support and connection community 

for growth-oriented lesbians and all women who love women. 

 

As a community and as individuals, we believe Black Lives Matter, we are actively anti-racist,

and we work to be conscious, compassionate and loving with ourselves and each other. 

Join our mailing list and get a free recorded class: 

Healing Push-Pull Relationship Dynamics​

  • Just coming out, a lifelong lesbian, or anything in between? Queer, bisexual, or don't like labels? We're here for you.

    Conscious Girlfriend welcomes, supports and celebrates all women who love women, or want to. Some members have been out for decades; others are just coming out.

  • Oriented toward personal growth and meaningful connection? So are we. 

    Conscious Girlfriend's work is intelligent, compassionate, and incorporates research from neuroscience, trauma healing, psychology and the study of successful relationships. 

  • We really are everywhere!

    If you value healthy, conscious dating, sexuality and relationships, you'll be right at home, wherever you are! We are based in the United States, but are honored to have members from all over the world.

  • The Academy offers 12 or more Zoom classes and groups monthly, so you have many opportunities to learn, connect and build community with like-minded women.

    Your membership lets you pick and choose from a rich array of topics! In addition, some of our wonderful community members volunteer to lead additional gatherings free of charge (their free community offerings are listed at the very bottom of the page, so make sure to check for them!) 

Welcome to the Conscious Girlfriend Academy

The Academy is an intelligent, compassionate online hub where all lesbians, queer women and other women-loving-women can meet, form friendships or more, and learn life-changing skills to create happy, healthy love.

  • We are a very special community. Most of our members say they've never found anything else like it: a place for all women who love women to share open-hearted conversation in a safe, compassionate atmosphere, while learning how to date and love skillfully. And yes, we've had members fall in love with each other, too :)

  • If you're on a personal growth or spiritual path, you'll feel right at home in the Academy! Our members tend to be smart, compassionate and growth-oriented women who value depth, and are willing to grow. Many are Buddhists, yogis, 12-steppers, and/or have done a lot of therapy or spiritual work. Some are newer on their growth path. All are welcome!  

  • Academy members come from all over. Geography is no barrier! We meet on Zoom, and use breakout rooms so you can meet and connect with other women 1:1 and in small groups. We have all kinds of classes and groups. Click the Calendar link, or scroll down to see our upcoming offerings! There are also free community offerings led by community members each month. Click the Free Community Offerings link, or scroll all the way down to the bottom of this long page.  

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Members Say...

I just wanted to thank you for putting together this wonderful Academy experience for us. It is definitely helping me feel more connected with other women, as a late-in-life, fairly recent discoverer of what I think of as my sexual fluidity.

— Carla, age 42

 

Thank you for creating such a powerful and loving community.  I'm very much enjoying the Academy offerings.  It’s so much more heart-opening and encouraging than the dating apps. I'll see you online again soon!

— Eliza, age 50

 

Wow! Today’s Academy group was wonderful! The visualizations we did today were very empowering for me. Also, a few nights ago I got triggered and then got to share about it with two other participants, and got supported with such love and kindness. It was quite healing. 

— Dena, age 66

 

I’m loving the Academy, having beautiful conversations and anticipating good friendships at the very least! It’s helping me feel a new spark and optimism at this point in my life. And I have gotten two women's phone numbers already!

— Ameli, age 64

 

The Academy is such a gift - a wonderful community of lesbians to talk to and interact with! It’s invaluable to me. I’m still working on being the right partner (as well as finding her) and I can see myself wanting to go through the course materials again and again.

— Teresa, age 36

 

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More About Conscious Girlfriend

Conscious Girlfriend is the #1 global resource providing education and support for women who love women. Since 2014, women from 18 countries have taken our classes!

 

Clearly, lesbians everywhere need and want resources for healthy love.

 

Whether you're just coming out, healing from a breakup,

ready to meet someone special, 

eager to learn more about healthy female-female sexuality,

excited about learning conscious communication skills,

or on a mission to make your love last, 

we are here for you. 

And we welcome all women who love women, 

whatever you call yourself.

 

By the way, becoming what we call a "conscious girlfriend" will benefit all your relationships, including that relationship you're in 24/7 --

yes, your relationship with yourself!

 

It's not just about dating and romantic partnership. And we welcome women who are happily single, single and looking, single and

getting over a breakup, dating, or in a committed relationship.

In other words, come as you are:) 

Conscious Girlfriend Academy Faculty

Most Academy classes are taught by Conscious Girlfriend's director, Ruth. But we have some amazing guest faculty who join us sometimes, too!

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. is the director of Conscious Girlfriend. Ruth has published eight books, including Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, and has taught at six universities. She is a certified Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality coach, and studied coaching with Gay and Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and many other books. Ruth is also certified in hypnotherapy, core shamanism, and other transformational tools. She has been in private practice since 2003. 

Anna Benassi, MFT

Anna Benassi, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in grief, loss, couples work and Gestalt Therapy. She teaches at the California Institute of Integral Studies and has been a practicing Buddhist for over 20 years. Anna is much beloved by her clients for her ability to incorporate humor, play and quirkiness into the serious topics of love and relationships. Her website is www.annabenassi.com.

Kai Wu

Kai Wu is a love and sex coach with extensive training in Tantra and Ancestral Healing Lineage Repair, as well as all things sexual. She is of Chinese/Taiwanese ancestry, was born in Chile, and speaks Spanish, Mandarin and Cantonese. She has been immersed in her own ancestral healing and the reclamation of Chinese reverence practices for over 15 years. Her website is www.lovebodysoul.com

Megan Tennity

Megan Tennity of Relating With Grace (www.relatingwithgrace.com) is a  trauma-informed intimacy and relationship coach, certified in the Somatica Method, a certified Tantra Educator, and a current student of Somatic Experiencing trauma healing work. She is passionate about helping clients live their fullest embodied expression of sexuality and love, and integrating their spirituality and sexuality in authentic ways.

Maxwell Pearl, Ph.D.

Max Pearl (formerly Michelle Murrain) co-founded Conscious Girlfriend in 2013, and later transitioned gender. Max has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience and a Certificate of Theological Studies. He is a long-time practitioner of contemplative spirituality and has trained with Gay and Katie Hendricks, Body Trust and Authentic Movement. Max's new work is www.transresilience.com

 Although he no longer identifies as a woman, Max will co-lead workshops on gender identity, complexity and dysphoria.

Kat Kolegas

Kat Kolegas has an extensive background in sexuality work, including training in Somatica Method Intimacy & Sexuality Coaching, sexological bodywork, professional cuddling, and Orgasmic Meditation. Her passion is helping smart and successful women feel sexy and empowered in their bodies so they can attract the love of their life and have amazing, fulfilling, connected sex. Kat is also bilingual in Spanish. Her website is www.katkolegas.love

Frequently Asked Questions

How does the Academy work ?​

Who is welcome?

Can I participate in the Academy by phone?

What if the schedule doesn’t work for me?

What is the average age of Academy participants?

Is participation confidential?

All faculty and participants agree that all information shared in Academy settings will remain 100% confidential. 

More from Academy Members...

Yesterday's classes were incredible. I learned so much in the Boundaries class, definitely some life-changing knowledge in there! And the spiritual connection group was nothing short of delightful; the energy was so nurturing.

— Audrey, age 38

 

Thank you again for creating this Academy -- you have no idea of the amount of impact this has already made in my life! In the past I felt panicky when a match reached out to me on a dating site. Now I'm gaining so much confidence!

— Lauri, age 61

 

As a new Academy member, I wanted to share how much I enjoyed participating in the recent groups and classes! I can’t wait to watch the recording of the class because there was so much information in it. Thanks so much for making this available to our community. 

— Robbi, age 56

 

The Academy is helping me practice meeting women and sharing myself. I am excited and look forward more group meetings. Also, I have already contact info and have been talking with several women from the group. The “From Conflict to Connection” class was also excellent.

— Alexa S., age 60

 

 

Your class on Solo Sexual Enlivenment was very freeing, yes edgy, but you have a way of breaking the ice, and giving permission really resonates with me. I think that permission is really what I’ve needed for so long to let go (of unhealthy people and patterns), and to be my queer self. 

— Gereen, age 40

 

GREAT session yesterday! It addressed my problems (initiating, asking someone for her contact info, etc.) right to the core. I'm learning so much and it’s a great group of women.  I’m really glad to be part of the community!

— Terry, age 52

AUGUST 2020

Please note: times are listed in PACIFIC TIME. Most classes and groups meet on Tuesdays 5:00-6:30 pm PST, and Saturdays 12:00-1:30 PST and 5:00-6:30 PST.

Please adjust for your local time zone! (e.g. 6:00-7:30 Mountain, 7:00-8:30 Central, 8:00-9:30 Eastern.)

 

Most of the following offerings are available only to Conscious Girlfriend Academy members. If you’d like to try out a free sample class or group, please email Ruth@Consciousgirlfriend.com and let me know which one, and I’ll send you access! Our groups on race are open to all women who love women, regardless of Academy membership.

  • Saturday, August 1, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Dismantling Defensiveness

    Defensiveness is one of the “four horsemen of the Apocalypse” in the Gottman relationship research – in other words, highly destructive to intimacy. Yet most of us find it very hard to stop being defensive. Learn why this pattern feels so hard-wired, why it causes so many problems, and how to shift it. (Hint: most of us fear getting abused if we stop being defensive, but actually, when done right it can bring about more empowerment, ease and connection.

  • Saturday, August 1, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice Around Dismantling Defensiveness

    Come support other women and receive support from our wonderful Conscious Girlfriend Academy community! Together, we’ll do role-plays and practice how to replace defensiveness with curiosity and self-responsibility.   

  • Tuesday, August 4, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Frank Talk About Woman to Woman Sex

    Questions about kissing, oral sex, orgasm, or sexual communication? Come practice talking about your needs and desires, and finding out more about someone else’s. What if you don’t know what you want, or she doesn’t know? We’ll also talk about the mindful, non-goal oriented approach to sex (which, by the way, creates a lot more pleasure and less stress for most women.)   

  • Saturday, August 8, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Dating and Love through a Spiritual Lens: Loving Someone Well

    What does it actually mean – and take – to love someone well? What do key spiritual paths say about forgiveness and generosity, and how does that line up with Conscious Girlfriend ideologies? How can you reconcile psychological wisdom about taking care of your own needs, with spiritual advice to “love thy partner as thyself?”  

  • Saturday, August 8, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice Around Loving Someone Well

    Join us for this opportunity to explore what’s true for you around loving someone well while also honoring your own needs. Please attend the earlier session too in order to get the most out of these small-group discussion and practice sessions!

  • Tuesday, August 11, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Loving Across Differences

    Have you ever had – or thought about having – a relationship with someone of a different race or class background, or perhaps someone of a significantly different age, health status, or income level? Join us for a frank discussion and small-group sessions on navigating the gifts and challenges of such relationships.

     

     

    Thursday, August 13, 5:00-6:30 pm PST

    CLASS: Open to All Women Who Love Women, Including Non-Academy Members!

    Fundamentals of Wise Lesbian Dating - Especially Now

     

    What's different about dating during Covid? What are best practices for online and long-distance dating? Can in-person dating still occur safely? How does the pandemic change - or not change - your relationship needs and priorities? And how can you connect with other women in ways that are life-affirming and smart for your heart, while avoiding common lesbian dating challenges like lack of clarity, going "all in" much too fast, and ignoring the all-important Compatibility Questions! Technology willing, the class will be recorded. But do join us live if you can to get your questions answered, and also get to interact with the amazing Conscious Girlfriend community!  https://zoom.us/j/99923536307

  • Saturday, August 15, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Fully Receiving, Appropriately Giving

    Do you ever give too much, and get resentful about not receiving more? Do you ever notice that when someone tries to give to you, it’s hard for you to feel comfortable accepting it? We’ll explore what’s at the root of these patterns, and how to heal them.

  • Saturday, August 15, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice Around Fully Receiving, Appropriately Giving

    Come practice how to ask for what you want, how to set boundaries when asked to give something you don’t want to give – and how to open yourself to the pleasure of receiving!

  • Tuesday, August 18, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Support for Women New(er) to Loving Women

    If you’re fairly recently out, just exploring your sexual identity, or don’t have much experience with women, come ask your burning or embarrassing questions and receive support. Women who’ve been out for a long time are welcome to come provide support to the newbies, too!

  • Saturday, August 22, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Communication Power Tools

    Learn the 5 steps to dismantling your triggers so you can actually have a productive conversation rather than an argument! We’ll also discuss the key differences between endless, draining processing, and communication that actually bridges gaps, heals conflict, and leaves you feeling more connected.​

  • Saturday, August 22, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice around Communication Power Tools

    Come practice dismantling your triggers in real time – and also what to do when you can’t. Also, practice ways to break the draining “processing” spiral and experience the power of using conflict to connect you to someone else, rather than separate you.

  • Tuesday, August 25, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Open-Hearted Conversations About Race for Women of All Races

    Tonight's conversation will be co-facilitated by Caress Scarbrough, who is Black, and CGA Director Ruth Schwartz, who is white. Our topic will be Microaggressions: How Women of All Races Can Better Understand and Heal the Wounds of Racism and Racial Separation. Caress will share the R.A.V.E.N. approach to responding to microaggressions committed by others, and we'll discuss and practice the imperfect but open-hearted process of creating interpersonal repair when a microaggression has occurred. Microaggressions are often committed unintentionally, yet create great pain for BIWOC (Black, Indigenous & Women of Color.)  Open to all women who love women, regardless of Academy membership, here: https://zoom.us/j/99923536307

  • Saturday, August 29, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Overcoming Criticism

    Relationship research shows that criticism is one of the “four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse” (meaning a key predictor of relationship failure.) Yet many of us have a strong pattern of criticizing the people we’re close to. In this class, we’ll dive into the pain and unmet needs that are often hidden in the habit of criticism, and learn more intimacy-building alternatives.

  • Saturday, August 29, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice around Overcoming Criticism

    Small-group practice and role-plays to help you replace the corrosive habit of criticism with more effective alternatives! Please attend the earlier class to prepare for this group.

SEPTEMBER 2020

  • Tuesday, September 1, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Chemistry & Compatibility

    Where does that “spark” really come from, and what does it mean? Can you trust it? Should you run from it? Can you change your attraction patterns? What if you commonly feel chemistry with unavailable women, or even mean ones? Small-group discussion and learning!

  • Saturday, September 5, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Working Skillfully with Jealousy and Other Triggers

    Jealousy and its relatives (like feeling left out or unimportant) can be huge triggers that derail relationships. Learn how to get to the heart of this trigger so you can receive its real message, ask for what you need, and take in the love that’s actually there.

  • Saturday, September 5, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice around Working Skillfully About Jealousy and Other Triggers

    Practice communicating about your triggers, emotions and needs in ways that are self-responsible, self-aware, and make it much more likely that other people will respond with empathy. 

  • Tuesday, September 8, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Building Self-Love and Self-Compassion

    Many women find compassion for others easy to come by, yet struggle to turn it toward themselves.  We’ll discuss why this is so, and do simple exercises to help build the self-compassion muscle.

  • Saturday, September 12, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Healthy Closeness, Healthy Distance: Intimacy & Autonomy

    Learn why all relationships need both closeness and distance, how to create both intimacy and autonomy in a connection – and how to navigate the challenges that arise when partners need different things, in different ways or different amounts, at different times.

  • Saturday, September 12, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Discussion and Practice around Healthy Closeness, Healthy Distance: Intimacy & Autonomy

    Practice communicating your needs, hearing other peoples’ needs, and somatic exercises to build your comfort level in experiencing both closeness and distance.

  • Tuesday, September 15, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Connection Group for Spiritually-Oriented Women​

    Whatever your spiritual path or practice may be, come share with other women! All are welcome, whatever your definition of “spiritual” meay be. (Past participants have included meditators, yogis, Science of Mind followers, energy workers, shamanic practitioners, Jews, Christians, “spiritual but not religious” women, women who commune with trees and mountains, and more.

  • Saturday, September 19, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Understanding & Embracing Your Erotic Self

    Learn the key components of a satisfying sexual connection, and how to create more sexual compatibility. We’ll also discuss how to handle past trauma, shame, body image issues, performance anxiety, internalized homophobia and other barriers to a healthy erotic life.

  • Saturday, September 19, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Practice Groups for Communicating Erotic (and other) Desires

    Communicating openly about sexual desires, fears, needs and triggers is hard for most of us. Come engage in simple conversations and practices to help build your comfort level!

  • Tuesday, September 22, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Rejection and Resilience

    Feeling rejected is one of the most painful experiences there is. Tonight we’ll practice separating the feeling of rejection from the stories we tell ourselves about rejection, and building inner resources and resilience so that feeling rejected doesn’t have to keep you from connection. 

  • Saturday, September 26, 12:00-1:30 pm

    Class: Conscious Connection, Compatibility, Pre-Dating and Dating Skills

    How can you create more connection, regardless of whether or not you feel romantic interest? How can you determine potential compatibility? What are good ways to initiate further contact, when you want to? How can you be clear about what you’re seeking and what you’re feeling, and consciously navigate the emotions and conversations along the way?

  • Saturday, September 26, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Group: Practice Group for Conscious Connection, Pre-Dating and Dating Skills

    We’ll practice simple tools for creating connection, initiating further contact, creating more clarity around friendship, pre-dating or dating, and working with the feelings that come up, both hers and yours.

  • Tuesday, September 29, 5:00-6:30 pm

    Open-Hearted Conversations About Race for Women of All Races

    Join our community conversation for all lesbians, queer women, and women who love women or want to, as we navigate our shared pain around racial injustice. Topics will include: creating more understanding between women of different races so that white women can better support women of color; understanding implicit bias and microaggressions; and taking concrete steps to co-create a more just world. Open to all women who love women, regardless of Academy membership, here: https://zoom.us/j/99923536307

Want even more depth? Consider the Advanced Academy option. 

Before starting the Academy, Conscious Girlfriend was best-known for our life-changing class, The Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love.

 

In the past, this course was only available two or three times per year,

and took place over 12 weeks, with 7 group coaching calls.

Many women said that was just too fast. 

 

Now the Roadmap has a new, more accessible format!

 

If you choose the Advanced Academy option, you’ll get access to all 12 of the Roadmap modules, which include audios and written worksheets.

 

Plus, you'll be able to attend a 2-hour group coaching call every month for 12 months. During those calls, we'll do role-plays focused on your specific concerns, and you'll get personal coaching. 

 

Best of all, instead of having to rush through the Roadmap class

in just 12 weeks, you’ll be supported with the material for a whole year.

 

The Roadmap course is exactly what it sounds like:

an experiential and skills-based map to ready you for a relationship, 

guide you through conscious dating,

help you build clarity and confidence,

and support you in developing the skills for long-term partnership. 

 

Now, let me introduce you to a few women who took the Roadmap, 

and got life-changing results...

 

  • Lucy's Story

    Lucy was in her 40s and had come out after a long marriage to a man. She had only had one relationship with a woman, and it ended badly.  She knew some women would rule her out because she had two kids at home, and, especially because of her kids, she was really picky.

     

    So she doubted there was really someone out there for her, but she took the Roadmap anyway... and it gave her the clarity and confidence she needed.

     

    Within just a few months of finishing the Roadmap, Lucy met an amazing woman (on Tinder, of all places!) They have now been domestic partners for several years. Lucy's new partner adores her kids, and they post amazing pictures on Facebook of their family vacations. 

     

    This is how magic works: Lucy hates to cook, and among the many other qualities she wanted in a partner, she really hoped to find someone who would cook for her. Guess what? The woman she met is a chef!

     

    Lucy wrote to me:

     

    Taking the Roadmap really allowed me to focus on putting out into the universe what I wanted quite specifically. I put into my dating profile things I might not have before taking your course, and looked for specific traits I knew I needed, that I didn't know about before. I believe that was a big factor into why I even found her.  She really is what I have been looking for.   I was one of those women over 40 that wondered if finding the right partner was even possible at this age. Now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life.

  • Elizabeth's Story

    Elizabeth was in her 50s and gun-shy. She had a history of being attracted to partners who were not emotionally safe for her.

     

    She took the Roadmap class and also did 1:1 coaching with me, so we could rewire her attraction patterns.  (Yes, this is doable!)

     

    The Roadmap helped her realize that she actually got turned on by women who felt dangerous to her. This is not uncommon. But though danger felt sexy, it definitely didn't lead to happy relationships. 

     

    After we’d been coaching for a few months, and Elizabeth dated a few women who fit the old pattern, she met a woman at a party and noticed that something different was happening. There was chemistry and she could actually see that this woman was good for her, too. 

     

    Some bumps came up early on, and the Roadmap helped Elizabeth and her new girlfriend get through them and stay centered. Now they’re married and have been together for five years. They're local, so sometimes I run into them around town, and Elizabeth always introduces me as “the dating coach who made this possible for me.”

     

    Of course, the truth is that she made it possible for herself. But I'm really glad that the Roadmap helped her do that. 

  • Jeanette's Story

    Jeanette was in her 60s, and had been single for a very long time. She was nervous about dating, didn't feel comfortable dating online, yet knew she didn't want to be alone forever, either. She felt stuck.

     

    The Roadmap class helped her realize that she wasn't alone; there were actually many other women in similar situations. This helped her release her shame. Next, she worked on healing some unsettled emotions from her last relationship, since she realized they were getting in her way.

     

    Then Jeanette created her online profile, and started meeting women. There were a number of disappointments and awkward conversations at first, but the support of the Roadmap helped her keep at it. After about a year, she met Dena, and they clicked and have been together ever since. Now Jeanette credits the Roadmap with helping her have the confidence to seek -- and find -- a new love (and also work through challenges as they come up.) "It's really never too late," Jeanette says happily.

     

  • Tiffany's Story

    Tiffany was in her 20s, and very shy. She had grown up in a religious family, and had a lot of trouble accepting herself as queer. She had come out to only one friend, who promptly rejected her.

     

    But the Roadmap class helped her build a community of loving, accepting lesbian and queer women friends (and big sisters, mothers, aunties and lesbian grandmothers!)

     

    Tiffany took the Roadmap class twice, and over time, she came out of her shell. She began attending the LGBTQ group at her college, then started using the lesbian dating apps. Soon she made some queer friends her own age. Then, after a few months, one of them suggested they become girlfriends.

     

    Tiffany wrote me, “When I started the class, I was so isolated and couldn’t imagine how I could ever live a real life as the person I am. It seemed impossible. Truthfully I just reached out from desperation. Now I have friends, a girlfriend, and so much more self-acceptance. I honestly think the Roadmap saved my life.” 

I could go on… and on… and on.

 

These four stories are just a handful of the amazing transformations I have been privileged to witness in women who took the Roadmap course -- women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and yes, 70s too.

 

There's no upper or lower age limit on healthy love. 

And the Roadmap will help you prepare for that love, and find it.

 

To get access to the 12-module Roadmap Class and monthly group coaching sessions, choose the Advanced Member option. 

Which Academy Option is Right For You?

Full Academy

$99/mo.

Or pay only $58/month when you sign up for a full year at $697! 

Come to any or all of our monthly offerings!

8 Connection Groups + 4 Skills Classes per month (Skills Class recordings available, too)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

 

Advanced

Member

$1297/yr.

Save $491 when you pay in full for the year! Or choose

12 pay - $149/mo.

All the Benefits of Full Academy Membership, PLUS... 

 

Access to our comprehensive 12-module course, the Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love, plus

 

A 2-hour group coaching call each month, exclusively for Advanced members (includes role-playing, laser coaching, and other opportunities to integrate the material more deeply) plus

 

A Private Facebook Group just for Roadmappers (along with the private Academy Facebook group)

Just the Skills 

$49/mo.

Or pay only $33/month when you sign up for a full year at $397! 

Come to any or all of our 4 Skills Classes per month (recordings available)

Private Facebook Group for Academy Members

 

PDF Copy of the book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love

Your Heart is Worth It. 

I hope reading this page has helped you develop more hope about your love life! 

Here's the thing: lesbians and queer women are courageous and powerful, and our relationships can be the very best relationships on the planet.

 

But because two women can bond so deeply and quickly, our relationships can also go bad fast -- if you don't choose a partner wisely, or don't have the skill, compassion and self-awareness to navigate conflicts when they arise. That's why the Academy helps you build those skills, and also connect with other women who share the commitment to conscious relationships.

 

Painful lesbian relationships are unfortunately common.

And over time, some women actually get scared of relationships because of bad experiences.

But it doesn't have to be that way!

 

You deserve happy, healthy love (and great sex, too!) And you can learn to choose the right partner, and also be the right partner.

 

There aren't many places where women who love women can learn, other than the "school of hard knocks." That's why the Academy was born.

We are here to support women who value growth. 

 

And meanwhile, you can have fun, make friends and maybe even find someone to date! A number of couples have formed already within our amazing community :)

 

Dip your toe in the water with a Skills-Only Membership, get 3X more learning and connection with a full membership, or fully commit yourself to change with an Advanced/Roadmap Membership.

The choice is yours.

Free, Non-Official Community Offerings 

 

Some wonderful Academy members have volunteered to lead the free groups and classes below. Although they are not official Conscious Girlfriend Academy offerings, they are additional chances to meet, learn, have fun, and connect! All aspiring Conscious Girlfriends are welcome (Academy membership is not required, but we do ask that you be committed to being conscious, compassionate, curious and honoring confidentiality, along with honoring other Conscious Girlfriend policies against hate speech, etc.)   

 

All Community Offerings will meet at this Zoom link:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83907388812 

 

Group Leader contact info is at the very bottom of this page.

AUGUST Free Community Offerings

All Community Offerings will meet at this Zoom link:

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83907388812 

 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 1, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 2, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 5, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. (Weekly except August 26, when we will have Open Mic night instead!)

 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 8, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 9, 11:00-12:15 PST

GROUP: Transforming Our Body Image

In this 4-week class with Misha Safran, we will discuss the demons that feed us hurtful messages about the way our bodies are supposed to be. We will connect with other conscious womxn and explore various thoughts, expectations and barriers which keep us from loving our bodies as they are. My hope is that you will walk away from this class at the end with a deeper sense of love and compassion for the body in which your beautiful heart beats. Feel free to email Misha if you have questions: misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 9, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 12, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. (Weekly except August 26, when we will have Open Mic night instead!)

 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 15, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 16, 11:00-12:15 PST

GROUP: Transforming Our Body Image

Class #2 of a 4-week class with Misha Safran, we will discuss the demons that feed us hurtful messages about the way our bodies are supposed to be. We will connect with other conscious womxn and explore various thoughts, expectations and barriers which keep us from loving our bodies as they are. My hope is that you will walk away from this class at the end with a deeper sense of love and compassion for the body in which your beautiful heart beats. Feel free to email Misha if you have questions: misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 16, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 19, 5:30-7:00 pm PST

SoulShare - Sisterhood of Deep Empathy with Adri Tucker

Come see your Conscious Girlfriends, share what’s on your heart, give and receive deep listening. Join for community and empathy - we’ll form a sisterhood of attentive ears and tender hearts. When time permits we will do optional empathy exercises from e.g. Non-Violent Communication. (Weekly except August 26, when we will have Open Mic night instead!)

 

THURSDAY, AUGUST 20, 5:00pm-6:30PM PST

Creativity in Solitude - with Julie Gieseke

Time alone, whether in a pandemic or as a solitary/single person in life is a unique opportunity to deepen your connection to your creative expression. Join in this experiential and fun gathering for some playful activities to build connection to your creative expression as well as to others.

 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 22, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 23, 11:00-12:15 PST

GROUP: Transforming Our Body Image

Class #3 of a 4-week class with Misha Safran, we will discuss the demons that feed us hurtful messages about the way our bodies are supposed to be. We will connect with other conscious womxn and explore various thoughts, expectations and barriers which keep us from loving our bodies as they are. My hope is that you will walk away from this class at the end with a deeper sense of love and compassion for the body in which your beautiful heart beats. Feel free to email Misha if you have questions: misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 23, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 26, 4:30-7:30 pm PST

CGA Open Mic!

Join us for this amazing monthly event filled with talented musicians, poets, writers, improv artists and more, all part of the CGA community and invited women-loving-women guests! Hosted by the inimitable Misha Safran, who creates a safe, fun and compassionate atmosphere in which to take risks and let yourself be seen. Come cheer your community members on in their talents AND/OR reserve a slot for yourself in advance by emailing misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

SATURDAY, AUGUST 29, 10:30am-11:30am PST

Group: Conscious Girlfriend Recovery Breakout with Lori J.

Mixed 12-step-based group for all lesbians or queer women who are in recovery, or are recovery-curious. WEEKLY

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 30, 11:00-12:15 PST

GROUP: Transforming Our Body Image

Class #4 of a 4-week class with Misha Safran, we will discuss the demons that feed us hurtful messages about the way our bodies are supposed to be. We will connect with other conscious womxn and explore various thoughts, expectations and barriers which keep us from loving our bodies as they are. My hope is that you will walk away from this class at the end with a deeper sense of love and compassion for the body in which your beautiful heart beats. Feel free to email Misha if you have questions: misha@safranconsulting.com 

 

SUNDAY, AUGUST 30, 5:30pm-7:00pm PST

Group: Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love Book Study with Lori J.

Open to all women who want to read the CLDL book aloud together. A free PDF of the book is available to CGA members in the Member Portal, and the book is also available in hard copy or for Kindle on Amazon and from other online booksellers. WEEKLY 

 

PAST AND POTENTIALLY UPCOMING EVENTS, Dates and Times TBA:

 

Group: Circles, with Jody Potiker

At this event, you'll be asked thought-provoking questions, then put into groups of four so each person has a chance to respond. Then we'll repeat this process over and over, with new groups each time. Come meet new women and stretch your mind and heart! Join us here: https://zoom.us/j/3877685410 and enter password smwslt (all lower case). If you've attended Circles before, you may come at 7:00. However, the 6:45 orientation is required for newcomers. Jody is a Conscious Girlfriend Academy member who also runs So Many Women, So Little Time, a lesbian Meetup group based in Orange County, CA (but open to lesbians worldwide!)

 

Creating, Embracing and Maintaining Joy - with Misha Safran

Do you find it hard to experience happiness daily? In this four-week group, we will join together with other Lesbian & Queer women to define what AUTHENTIC JOY can look like for you, to create an AUTHENTIC JOY practice and to discuss and celebrate with each other as we move through challenges AND embrace our AUTHENTIC JOY on a daily basis. There is a WhatsApp group which we use to support each other outside of class. ​WEEKLY

 

Maneuvering Through Your Malicious Messaging: Part III - with Misha Safran

Are you your worst enemy at times? Often? Are you willing to change the record? Change your story? In this class we will discuss what has felt normal but may not be normal ways to treat yourself, only familiar. We will have breakout rooms and brainstorming to support creating new ways of talking to yourself.

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COMMUNITY OFFERING GROUP LEADER CONTACT INFO:

 

Misha Safran is a Heart-String Healer for LBQT Womxn and an Academic Life Coach. https://safran-consulting.mykajabi.com/ or misha@safranconsulting.com

 

Adri Tucker can be reached at atucker2573@gmail.com

 

Jodi Mclaren can be reached at jodi@jodimclaren.com

 

Lori J. can be reached at (619)990-3099.  

 

Toni is at Tyvettethomas@hotmail.com

\Julie Gieseke is at www.juliegieseke.com

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